Am I too old to be Cool?

Many can agree young people face tremendous pressure fitting in and finding a sense of identity. The period of adolescence can be highly confusing and frustrating, so for young people who manage to assume a “popular” role, it’s no easy task to maintain confidence, and the respect and admiration of others.

For those who were unpopular or invisible in their youth, the anticipation to fast forward past that phase is expected.

The security of adulthood is being able to remove the pressure of acceptance and no longer exist in a mini society of judgement (based on how you look, what you’re wearing, and who you’re hanging with).

The unfortunate truth is, leaving that phase behind may find you right back where you started, reliving a popularity contest at work, in exclusive social circles where “ you can’t sit with us” themes are the rage, or “mixy” young professionals events.

How do you process this revolving door of fitting in?

You don’t. You just don’t try. You don’t make the effort to fit in.

You also don’t become a recluse and avoid these events or people who share your interests but go without pressuring yourself to fit in and allow yourself to have fun.

As an adult, you have the power to show up and leave if and when you feel uncomfortable, or you may be surprised that you actually enjoy yourself or the company of others who may feel just as anxious as you. The openness to have fun actually begins in your mind and the pressure begins there too.

Ironically, I find that the ones who were considered " nerdy" or unpopular as youth tend to be dynamic adults. They were the true strategists. They became so accustomed of being left out and overlooked, they used that time to redirect their focus and purpose.... excelling in areas that matter.

The moral of this post is, no, you are not too old to be cool but what is considered cool shifts.

It is often less about what you have materialistically, and more about your substance, your character, and your consistency.

Clout chasers and being “mixy” is short lived and people will soon recognize your intentions.

What's cool is being you, whether you are awkward and odd, creative and quirky, a low talker or a loud talker, even if you stutter, just own it and be you.... now that’s cool AF.